About Fogdog's Weight Loss

Don't Focus on the Goal...

If you've followed this blog you know that I've struggled for many years with improving my health. I've finally reached a point where I've managed to maintain a small amount of success. Now it's time to take the next step, but I believe it requires a new way of thinking.

Instead of trying to get healthy, why not shift focus toward learning how to build healthy habits instead. Follow me as I try to teach myself how to Engineer healthy habits that will allow me to take my health to the next level. Let's see where this experiment goes!

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Day #81 - Being Honest with Myself

I often go back and read my previous day's post the next day.  It might sound weird, but I often do it to see if I still feel the same way today as I did when I wrote it.  I looked at yesterday's post and my first thought was "Maybe I was little hard on myself yesterday". 

I thought about it for a moment and then decided, I wasn't hard on myself, I was just being honest with myself.  that's something I've missed in the past.  It's amazing how we can delude ourselves into thinking just about anything.

I need to have some more honest conversations with myself.  As I continue to "wake up" from a long dream (or nightmare would probably be the better word) I'm beginning to see where I've managed to fool myself into a lot of things.

What makes this whole process interesting is that some of these "delusions" can actually start to become core beliefs.  For instance, I have this belief that I do not have time to exercise; that somehow, my schedule is unique and that I somehow busier than everyone else in the world.  You might laugh at this and if you and I were talking about it, I would probably say that I don't really believe that, but at my core I do because I can't figure out how to fit exercise in.  Since I can't figure out how, it must be impossible.

Beliefs are hard to break, you can't just tell yourself that you believe something else and it becomes so.  True change in a belief requires consistent proof.  In this case I need to find a way to fit in exercise and prove it to myself before I can truly believe it.

My toughest core belief to change will be about my ability to lose weight.  When I look deep inside I know I don't yet truly believe I'm capable of losing weight yet; I don't believe I will be successful.  In fact, there's a part of me that wonders if I believe that I don't deserve to lose weight.  I wonder why I would feel that way?

I push forward searching for that belief that I can complete this journey and be successful.  In order to do that I need to continue to be honest with myself.

Stay Strong!

6 comments:

  1. I'm oddly fearful that I cannot lose weight until I actually DO start losing weight (more than just the water weight) and then I seem to be sort of ok. It's a battle though.

    On the exercise: I fit it in first thing in the morning. I wake up an hour early to do it, because if I don't, I won't do it. I AM busy. I do have a million things to do (even if I don't get them done) and the truth is that if it's not fit in where nothing else can get in the way, it just doesn't happen. Know thyself... so you can outsmart yourself. I don't break into my sleep lightly, either. I'm a nightowl. Getting up at 5:30 is really freaking hard considering my brain doesn't wake up until the sun sets. But it gets done, and weirdly I wake up before the alarm because my body expects it now.

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    1. You illustrate my point exactly. Everyone is just as busy as me, but I still can't find a away to believe I have time to exercise. It will come some day.

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  2. Excellent post! I have some of the same feelings. Change is always scary even if it is for the better. Sometimes I have thoughts that being at a healthy weight is going to change too much about who I am, or how people perceive me but I saw a great motivational pic today and I wish I could post it in this comment. It said "Don't let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen." That just hit me like a ton of bricks!
    You're doing great dude, just acknowledge those thoughts and let them pass because it's just your sub conscience fearing change and change in this fight is good. I'll post that motivational pic for you on my post tonight.

    Keep fighting dude!

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    1. Thanks FM, I'll be looking for your post tonight!

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  3. Keep positive, keep focused and you will succeed.......one step at a time

    All the best Jan

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